My 2 Cents: Father’s Day Massacre

A few days ago the question of whether or not Mother’s should be honored on Fathers day was presented to me. Below is my response. Feel free to give me your response as well. I welcome it. Should Single Moms be Honored on Fathers Day? I have said it...

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Relationship Tip of the Week: True Love

A Note To My Wife: I never knew what “True Love” meant until God started teaching me how to love you correctly. I never knew that true sacrifice is not just going without something, but rather giving something in the attempt to bless, and in return gaining something much more...

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My Two Cents

Today I woke up with this heavy on my mind……. 1. God is not energy,  energy exists because of Him. 2. God is not the universe,  He created the universe.  Stop praying to the creation and start praying to the Creator.  The universe doesn’t bring you anything,  faith does....

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Relationship Tip of the Week

  One key that can make a world of difference.  Men, forever date your wife. Make time to spend time with her to show her she is special, just like you did when you were trying to get her.  Ladies, never stop flirting with your husband.   If you...

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I Choose To Love Her!

I have fallen victim to this through my life. As a man there are  times I can be short sighted. I’ve missed her subtle hints begging for me to understand her inner beauty. I didn’t see what was right in front of me.  My message to men is,  change,...

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A Woman’s Worth

Over the years I have learned that love is more than a word or combination of feelings and emotions. It is a decision made and an implementation of an attitude of respect, gratefullness, and compassion towards the other person.  My mission is to show Good Men how to fully...

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Prepare For The Relationship You Want:

It still baffles me when I see people preparing for all facets of their lives but fail to prepare the one thing that really matters, life itself. Especially when it comes to love, relationships and family; people just don’t place importance on the being prepared.

I have four basic musts for Preparing for the Relationship that You Want.  Let’s take a look:

  1. Know your baggage: Know that all people come with different baggage from the past. We all do.  Some comes with a duffle bag, some with a back pack, some with a plastic bag, while other will have a complete set of Luis Vuiton luggage with them.  Despite which category you fall into, we all have a past.
  2. Know yourself: Know what you are attracted to.  I like asking the question, if a fish what type of bait would you be attracted to?  Would you be attracted to a bad boy or fast girl, or would you want someone honest and worth putting your trust in.  If you were a fisherman, what kind of bait would you use to catch our payday.  Ladies, would you use our bodies? Would you wear those jeans and little black dress just a little more tight than normal? Fellas, would you use money, cars and status to real in your big catch?  Ladies, you don’t have to use your body and sex to land your a Good Man, and fellas, remember that you will catch what you are fishing for.  If your bait is materialism, you will most likely catch a woman who will be with you for those things and nothing else. A real woman wants substance, not just materialism.
  3. Know what you like:  If men were cars, what type of car would you choose?
  • A Lemon: Looks good but usually laid up most of eh year not working: in terms of men, he can’t keep a job, you are always investing money into him when in reality it is cheaper to replace him.
  • A Two Seater:  These are fun to drive, attractive and shiny, but in reality it is not very practical.  A two seater does not consider a family and could care less about where our kids will sit.  He is only here for the ride not the long haul.
  • A Car with No Seat Belts: Not wearing a seat belt may feel comfortable, what what if represents is a man who is reckless and may become physically abusive because there are no safety restraints in place to prevent this sort of behavior.

 

All in all, preparation is the key to your relationship success.  Even the Bible speaks of preparation for your relationship if you look closely.  IN Genesis, when Man was created, he was given a place to stay, the Garden. He had a job, it was to tend the garden, name the animals and make sure things ran smoothly. He had is education and faith, he walked and talked with God. What better education system?  After all this, then he was ready to have his bride, Eve.  On the other side of the coin, the Bible speaks of women preparing for the day her groom would come, She was to prepare her lamps and watch out for him, because she did not know when he would present himself. This is why i say prepare yourself, and that the man is to find the woman.

– T.R. McCarthy

 

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Are You a Good Thing PT.2 : How to Prepare for Your Good Man

In many of my talks on relationships, I deal with the delicate subject, “How to Prepare for the Relationship That You Want?”  It is such an important topic that I dedicated a whole chapter to it in my new book, “IT MIGHT BE ME: The Secret Guide To Finding a Good Man” Would you like to know what I have found?  I have found that many people, men or women have no idea of how to prepare, or that they even need to prepare for their relationship.

Let me me take a few moments to give you might insights on preparation.

  1. In last week’s episode of It Might Be Me TV, I told you the only thing in this vast universe that God said was not good was Man being alone. HE thought this issue was so important that he planned, carefully crafted, and formed the most priceless and beautiful work of art to date known as Woman. He created you with purpose and real value.  You not only enhance life, you also give it.  In proverbs 18:22 it states, “He who finds a wife finds a Good Thing , and obtains favor from the Lord.”(NJKV)  Looks like you are a Good Thing to be found, and that you bring favor and blessing to the man in your life.
  2. If a man FINDS.a wife, he finds a God Thing, it is safe to say that he is the one doing the looking.  It did not state she who finds her husband……. So if he is doing the looking, what is your role?  Your role is to PREPARE. Prepare yourself for the relationship that you want.
  3. I do realize that most women were never taught the subject of preparation for your future relationship.  It is such an skill that has been lost over time.  Let me say it this way: we prepare for a test, we prepare for the next day, we even prepare dinner, but we never prepare for the relationship or life that we want to have one day.  Why is that.
  4. It is much more import to learn and prepare yourself to blend your talents and personality with the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with then it is to prepare for a driving test.

Lastly, ladies, in today’s society everyone seems to know what a woman KEEPING IT REAL means, but her KEEPING IT REAL never seems to include preparation to exhibit self control, inner beauty, self respect, humility, love, or sound judgment. Prepare for the relationship you want.  I will discuss how do this is next weeks’ episode.

– T.R. McCarthy

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